A mechanical definition of love

Here is my dream.

I will not see it come to light in my lifetime , but out of my internal motivations comes the eternal dedication to keep working on achieving it in some distant future.

It is a concept of intra-human relationships that is vastly different from everything we’re used too. Completely different from all the prisons we have built for ourselves in thoughts and emotions.

We have to start over out of a place of love. And this can only be done together with other people who have first learned to love themselves, and are continuously improving their own version of their internal Cuju game. It’s not important how they see , structure or organize this language within themselves.

The Cuju analogy is simply mine. My own little private religion if you will. My own little completely private language between my feelings, and my thoughts.

This is not something that can be given , but it is something that each individual has the duty to construct within itself. The fact that we have all been taught that we should have others tell us how we should operate internally is a peculiarly nasty prison. And all children relationships that come out of that one are peculiarly nasty prisons too.

It is at the same time the biggest question in the world , and also the smallest question in the world.

How should my thoughts and emotions talk to each other. And that will then define everything else in your life , but that way it is also added in the mix of all individuals in the world.

And it is very obvious that this world has been suffering from a lot of internal solutions that are not formed out of love.

It is a big and difficult question that needs to be resolved between every individual’s thoughts and emotions. And there are only a few reactions to it that are possible.

- solution-taking

- solution-giving

- Self-improvement

I’ll go a bit deeper in all three aspects now , because these are extremely important basic principles that will constantly need to be fought against. Because it seems that the best way to quickly identify whether or not the internal motivations of a relationship are a loving one, or one leading to prisons… is to observe the quality of the game being played, and try to determine which one of these three it is. It is also really important to observe that the efficiency of it is not important at all. Only the quality of the relationship matters. The quality of it being capable of love and improvement.

So first I’ll describe the three possible logical courses of action to take when faced with this biggest question of all, before I describe how to tell them apart from each other in all situations big and small , and then we need to go into the distinction of the quality and efficiency of them.

Solution-taking

It is a tough question to face for sure. Especially when you’re already in a super-structure of prisons, and the excuses you have already been making are extremely numerous and well trained. A “What , I’m going to have to live a life where I am constantly working on improving myself!? I deserve better then this! I want a vacation from this before I even started!” sort of thing in an endless loop. The victim-minds of societies prisons have been told to take it personal… they have been told that it is an insult that they should improve themselves. They have been told the question is already solved and they shouldn’t even think about it themselves. It’s probably too difficult anyways and I might fail. I’ve tried before and failed so it’s not worth it anymore.

But this state of mind is at a strong cognitive dissonance with your reality, since your emotions are there, and your thoughts are there. These is nowhere to go , and nowhere to escape too. Because it is only the relationship between those two that together create the fact that you exist anyways.

It is their relationship that has created your identity , your ID, your soul , your being … You are not just your body with a brain. That’s just the physical platform which has formed a relationship with your identity. And your identity is created by the relationship of your thoughts and your emotions.

There is no escape. This is your home. This is where you are and what you are. And if you do not resolve the game between your thoughts and your emotions into a game that constantly keeps improving itself , then that relationship is without love. And then all external relationships will be without love. And then your world becomes without love.

But once you have lost hope , once you have come to the conclusion that you can’t do this… then the prison becomes permanent. Just like it happened to Wilson in 1984.

Once you are ready to always simply pass on all your grief and misery born out of being love-less…

Then you have become a solution-taker. An there are many forms in which this world creates opportunities for solution-takers. From religions , to countries, to political systems , to healthcare and on and on and on…

All our societies across all of history have all , always degraded into mass enablement of the “solution-taking” state of mind. It doesn’t matter if its communism or democracy , it doesn’t matter if it’s Islam or Christianity , it doesn’t matter if it’s this country or that , this culture or that , this place or that…

The only thing that matters … is that if there is a mass grouping of solution-taking minds… that group will go and sit in prisons within prisons within prisons and together descend into chaos and misery , slowly… but very surely indeed. Because the only thing they can do , is to create more prisons into the ones they already hate. They never leave the original prison in their mind , since they can no longer perceive it.

Solution-giving

This kind of relationship is quite fascinating actually. These relationships can only be born out of a relationship of true love , but then through the course of their life got perverted and lost contact with it’s parent relationships. This is a tunnel out of a prison that started out well , but then forgot it should start over at some point. It was love at some point , but it no longer observes it’s own quality to make sure it’s not making a prison.

It started out well , but at some point the excuses started to make sense again and greed and denial took over again.

This is particularly nasty , since a lot of value was created and things were on their way. Somewhere , some single mind successfully creates a healthy loving relationship within itself. Like I now like to believe that my internal Cuju game is a loving relationship between my emotions and my thoughts. Let’s call my personal variant of this “Cuju-love” for the sake of this part of the map.

If at some point I see myself trying to convince others that they should also definitely follow the “Cuju-love” way… then I have become a solution-giver , and I will start to create prisons again. Our societies have become so sick and perverted in this nasty variant that we even call this… success!

We actually positively reward people who create prisons for others , and we are even so incredibly evil that we usually even call this something like “help”. But this wouldn’t be help or love in any healthy way at all.

Noone should ever be told how to handle their internal language between their thoughts and their emotions. We should all be working on it ourselves. If there are 7 billion people on the world then there should be 7 billion unique fingerprints, unique iris’s … and there should also be 7 billion unique languages between those unique combinations of thoughts and emotions.

There should be 7 billion unique religions , 7 billion unique philosophies for life , 7 billion unique versions of how best take care of their body , 7 billion unique version of daily activities , 7 billion unique career paths and jobs , etc… etc…

And if there aren’t… then some relationship… somewhere… has started to create a prison and the excuses and denial won over from love.

We should therefor all be working on this for ourselves, within ourselves… but once we feel good about it.. we should not try and get others to follow our internal solution. We definitely shouldn’t sell it either. But we should share them. We can give inspiration and hope that way , but no one should be told or asked or advised to do it the same way. Because that is no longer love.

Love is to set a relationship free… love is not to define another relationship.

Self-improvement

For me , within me… I call this my Cuju-game between my emotions and my thoughts.

I have my own unique language there and my own unique philosophy.

If you have read this large volume of text , you have been walking through the lands of my mind and have been given a small peek of it. But don’t think you know me. Don’t think I want you to agree or disagree. I just loved writing it. These words are incredibly inefficient , and far to lacking to come even close.

This entire volume of text is but one single ant in an ant-colony larger then the sun… and that whole collection is but sorry simple me , loving the world around him.

Not much of it is original , if anything. All these words I learned somewhere because someone else wrote them down somewhere. I haven’t invented any words or concepts here. It is all just a collection of what I’ve learned so far in my own little unique combination.

And I will always keep learning so this language is always evolving and adapting.

Always creating new prisons for itself , that always need to be observed and guarded against the excuses , and I will always go some wrong way somewhere to come to the conclusion I have built some prison somewhere. As soon as I realize that I will try to do better next time.

I just call this… love.

True love.

Without excuses.

And a definition of love is something every organisation needs. Within and without.